The Hidden Pattern Keeping You From Unconditional Love

Do You Love Yourself?

"Do you love yourself?" she asked.
"Yes," I replied without a flinch.
"Probably not enough," she smiled softly.

Her words lingered.
Could my self-love be conditional?
Had I forgotten who I truly am?

My rational mind rebelled—What do you mean?

Let’s expand our minds—by opening them.

A Forgotten Treasure

Let me tell you a story...

In 1767, the Burmese army invaded Thailand, destroying everything in their path.
When they reached a royal temple in Bangkok, they looted its treasures—
but left one statue untouched: a giant Buddha made of cheap plaster.

It seemed worthless.
They moved on, killing all the monks who protected the temple.
The statue, along with the ruins, was abandoned for 200 years.

Then, in May 1955, something remarkable happened.

Workers moving the statue accidentally chipped it.
Beneath the plaster?
An 18-karat gold Buddha weighing 1,200 lbs.
The monks had disguised it to protect it from destruction.
It worked—but at a cost: the golden Buddha was forgotten.

You Were Never Broken

In many ways, this is your story too.

You were born golden—pure, radiant, whole.
But life brought threats—emotional, physical, psychological.
So, like those monks, you built a protective facade.

That facade?
Limiting beliefs.
Assumptions.
Labels.
Fear-driven habits.
It kept you safe... once.

But now?
It’s sabotaging your joy, your potential, your wholeness.
The golden you was never lost… just covered up.

The Two Core Emotions

Fear wears many disguises:

• Perfectionist

• Overachievement

• Comparison

• People-pleasing

• Self-criticism

Why? Because you’re afraid of:

• Failure

• Rejection

• Poverty

• Looking bad

• Not mattering

• Missing out

• Losing control

All of these share one message:
“Prove you're worthy.”

That’s the trap: conditional love.

Here’s the hard truth:
Conditional love isn’t love at all.

It’s your mind whispering:

• “If you do the right thing...”

• “If you follow the rules…”

• “If you outperform everyone…”

It’s an insatiable cycle, chasing approval from the very self that forgot your true worth.

The Shift

If any part of this message felt uncomfortable...
Pause. Reflect.
and, if it didn’t…
Pause. Reflect.

Maybe that’s exactly where your hidden truth lies.

Write it down.
Feel it.
There’s no right or wrong, only responsibility.
This is your life. Own it.

Because beneath all that plaster...
You are the golden one.

Your friend and coach

Carlos.