The Silence Behind Success

Hi there,

Ever hit a big goal and felt… nothing?
You celebrate, smile for the photos, maybe even pop a bottle. But inside? Numb.

You’re not alone: 67% of high achievers report feeling numb after milestones (Harvard Business Review, 2021).

Have you ever really explored your own definition of success?

We’re told to celebrate small wins….

but what if they just highlight the gap between who you are and who you’re “supposed” to be?

Here’s my bold statement of the week:

You’re competitive.
Goal-driven.
Exhausted.

You show up strong, but:

• adapt your personality to impress.

• chase goals like they’re oxygen.

• craft the perfect image… while avoiding the mirror.

You’re efficient.
You’re high-functioning.
And, you’re exhausted.

We tell ourselves:

But research shows achievement alone won’t fulfill you—a 2022 Journal of Personality study found that self-worth tied to performance predicts chronic dissatisfaction, even in high achievers

Try this today: Pause after your next win. Ask: “Does this feel like me?”

I’ll go first.
The hardest part of success for me? Letting it land. 

I’ve got the family.
The freedom.
The business.
Yet that voice always whispers: “More…”

Which win feels hardest to enjoy? Reply to this email—I’ll send you a 2-minute tip to align your wins with your worth.

Your friend and coach,
Carlos

P.S. Share this with someone who’s tired of “This Is Fine” mode.

Next week: How to redefine success without losing your edge.